Needing to vent
I have 2 skids and I'm starting to nearly hate them. They are so ungrateful for everything and the attitudes are out of this world. My SD is nearly 7 but acts like an entitled teenager. I guarantee when she was like 18 months she'd be sassy and everyone would fawn over how cute she was so she's never outgrown it. My SS is 10 and breaks down in tears til he gets his way. They're both behind in school and everyone else acts like it's a major accomplishment getting passed to the next grade despite the fact that schools won't hold kids back these days unless the parent requests it. My husband works nights so I end up being the primary caregiver at our house but they know they just have to wait 2 days til they go to their mom's and they get whatever they want. She doesn't enforce rules, doesn't make them do homework, and fixes each of them what they want every night for dinner at her house, so they think I'm a monster for not being a short order cook. I keep trying to disengage especially on school because I refuse to exhaust myself when they don't care and I have my son to worry about. He's a year younger than my SD and already ahead of her on reading and math. Any tips on how to disengage without feeling like a failure?