When to call it a day?
Long story short I met my SO almost 3 years ago abroad. He was with friends as was I. I was almost a year out of an abusive marriage with 2 daughters. He was separated living alone with 3 children one being a few months old. I tread cautitiously but it cause all seemed challenging but ok. Fast forward a few months and we let the ex partners know we were dating but didn't intend on sharing with the children until necessary. The ex's didn't let that happen. His ex wife began to stalk and Harras me and treat me with horrific racism. "Does the n*hha know you have kids with me" "don't have anymore p"ki babies" etc we then hit the pandemic. And to avoid house hopping we jumped both feet into temporary accommodation together. He spent half a week with all children and my youngest lived with us. We moved into a 3 bed as soon as we could, I moved my daughters school (eldest with her dad by choice) and then same month became pregnant. I have been as civil as possible with his ex wife for the kids. I bend over backwards for the children. We have taken the 6 children abroad. They are included in every way possible. But his eldest has started to take it up a notch with her distespect towards me. I have the blame for her family being separated. I'm trying my best to persevere but now I have a 1 year old son my mental health is really struggling trying to consider all 6 children. We are back to court this week as she is claiming she is scared of him and we are abusive towards her. I never ever reacted to any of the racism even though my own children had to hear it. I feel so alone and when his teenager is disrespectful to me I let her know she doesn't have to come to our home it's a choice. My oh will say no she's coming and force us to be together. I'm very defeated. Depressed and borderline suicidal (again). When is enough enough? Just recently the ex wife has befriended my ex husband and they discuss us and make plans with each other with basically my blended family. Sorry k could write a book.
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