Overcoming jealousy issues regarding BM?
I'd love some perspective. My partner and I have been together for about two years and living together for several months. I've had to overcome some jealousy issues regarding BM, as when we first started dating, my bf said he was divorced, but found out later things were not finalized and they had tried to 'make things work'.
Fast forward and we've been doing pretty well since the move and getting SSs (5 and 9) comfortable with our house/schedule etc. (We have them every other weekend).
Although BM and bf had a really rough patch, fighting about every decision, etc. they do much better now. However, they are in almost daily contact, and frequently about much more than the children.
I found out bf spent time with BM and SSs without me at her house, and he didn't mention it. Based on their history, this makes me anxious. I want the children to have access to their dad, but it seems like BM and bf may not just be platonic.