Other People's Irritating Comments
OK -- I'm 42, married to a man (for 4 years) who has a son from a previous relationship. They were never married, but lived together until their son was about 3. They split up and have been co-parenting ever since. She married rather quickly after their relationship ended (and they have a son). My husband had never married until I came along. My stepson just turned 18.
Honestly, I really like my husband's ex. She's funny. The stepdad tends to step on my husband's toes on occasion and they've had some problems over the years. But overall, everybody has done an amazing job at putting my stepson first. When I throw a birthday party for him, we invite his mom and stepdad (and vice-versa). Everybody gets along. I don't have any complaints.
Why does EVERYBODY keep suggesting to me that we shouldn't be able to have this existence? It's so IRRITATING!! When I recently mentioned to a friend that I was going to my stepson's half-brother's bday party, she looked at me and said, "Wow. That's amazing that you do that." Why? Because I shouldn't be able to be in the same room with a woman who was with my husband ... 15 years ago? If I had any weird feelings about that, they sure would be resolved by now (one would hope) - 5 years into our relationship.
I just threw a graduation party for my stepson. His mom, stepdad, brother, grandpa, grandma were here, along with some of my family and some of my husband's family. My brother-in-law was showing me photos from the party. He got to a picture of my step-son's parents. *gasp!* in the same photo! *gasp!* STANDING NEXT TO EACH OTHER!! And he says, "Oh, I'm sorry. I didn't mean to take a picture of them."
So, I guess I'm not really asking for advice here. I'm just venting because OTHER people seem to have a problem - - as if we're the first blended family in America. What the heck!?!?! Is this common?