Don't know what to do!!
This is my first post, even though it is long overdue. My situation is so complicated.
I have a 6 yr old stepson who I think will be gay. He is extremely feminine and over the top. Always twisting, twirling, and playing with my birth daughters girly things. He even always requests a girl toy if we get fast food. All of this has never bothered me bc he has been this way since i met and married my husband 3 years ago. My problems now is I have a 2 year old son with my husband and the last few times my stepson has been over, he has been very inappropriate in his behavior with my son. I've caught him kissing my two year old in the mouth, he has held my two year in a very sexual position while rubbing his butt, and tonight he had my son under the covers while rubbing his back. Each of these times I have fussed at and yes even spanked my stepson. My husband doesn't react hardly at all. Hi reply- don't do that. Well tonight after the undercover situation I went off on stepson. My husband's reaction: he called his ex wife to say that I'm not comfortable and my stepson needed to go back with her. Of course the ex blew up saying her son was just showing brotherly love and that there is nothing wrong in anything he did. Am I the one overreacting here? My husband feels there is validity in how I feel and how his ex feels. He is now saying that on the weekends he is scheduled to get his son he will just get a hotel room to keep me from being uncomfortable. In addition to the 2 yr old we also have an 11month old together. At this point I just feel confused, am I overreacting??? Sorry so long!!