How do you disengage when u stay at home?
I'm thinking about disengaging. However I'm unemployed and actively searching for a job. In the meantime, I'm home with all the kids while they are out of school. They are home all day, week to week is the schedule (mom can't have them cuz she works on the off week and we can't afford child care so no use suggesting we take them somewhere else lol) so how do you disengage? Sometimes DH opens or closes at work. But there are many fights between the kids, they need things, ask for things, I enforce house rules on my DS but not them? Luckily he's pretty well behaved, but the SD's are allowed to get away with everything? Treating each other disrespectfully, breaking house rules? Disengaging sounds like a pretty sweet deal for the SD's if you ask me... What keeps me from doing it is I'm worried Itll just make me sick watching them get away with everything.
See, I'm big on moral standards and rule following and DS7 knows and respects that. I've known SD's pretty much their whole lives so they should too, but BM has little structure and we can't help how she's raised them, they are just like her.
So how do things just not spin out of control when you disengage when you stay home? How do you keep the peace when they fight and how do you get them to do things/or can you?