BM uses sd to manipulate husband into paying for extra things.
I am new here...just found this site after 4 years of dealing with a blended family/2nd marriage. I really need advice on this issue. My sd will call my husband and say that her mother will not let her tryout basketball,cheerleading, go on field trips etc... if he doesn't pay for half of it or that she will let her go on a fieldtrip IF he will pay for something else etc... He already pays more child support than is ordered because she signed an affadavit saying she did not work (this is not true but she works for her family so we cannot prove it)...our lawyer advised him not to pay for anything extra and to tell her the extra money each month was for such things but he always pays b/c she threatens not to let my sd do these things if he doesnt!!! Help...it is causing ALOT of stress between us. I understand the position he is in,I wouldn't want my child to miss out of these things but it is extortion and he nor I know how to stop it. We end up getting in tit for tat fights b/c he will say well you paid for such and such for your child ( i have 2 sons by my first marriage) but it is not the same. My ex and I have joint physical custody and do not exchange child support so we each pay for whatever they need at our homes and half of everything else. This is driving me crazy and I'm afraid going to cause severe damage to my marriage. BTW...this woman comes from a VERY wealthy family so this is not even money she NEEDS...it's a power trip for her!!!