Aww, poor SD13.....ugh!!
Hello all -- I was wondering if anyone else out there has a similar situation to mine. I have a BD15 and an SD13. My BD is a high-achiever and makes me so proud! She is a straight-A student, member of her high school drill team, lots of friends and activities. She spends some weekends and holidays with her dad, but her primary residence is with me and DH. My SD13 lives primarily with her BM (45mins away), but visits frequently. She is almost the complete opposite of my BD! SD13 has no activities outside of school, and she just failed the 7th grade!!! All she does when she is here is eat, sleep, text and watch TV. It is awkward when she is here, because I am often running my BD around.....taking her to practice, to meet with friends, etc. SD often just sits on the couch and watches. My DH is always feeling sorry for his daughter, it seems. He told me she was crying to him the other day, seeing the relationship my daughter and I have, and wishing she had that with her own mom. Her BM, in my opinion at least, is not awful -- has a good job, owns her own home, etc. She works a lot and has a boyfriend, and SD seems to feel she is too busy to spend much time with her. I know my DH would like me to be more of a "mother figure" to SD. But, she has a mom, ya know?? I am kind to SD and care about her, but I don't feel the same about her as I do my own BD. It's not possible. So I've been wondering....am I supposed to downplay my relationship with my BD when SD is here? Try to include her more?? They are just very different kinds of girls. Thoughts/comments welcome!