Really need advice please
So I have decided to really make an effort to try and make this blended family work instead of leaving. I have two skids (SS14 and SD9) that visit every other weekend and whenever else their mom feels like dumping them on us. It is really difficult for me to endure the weekends when they are here, even though they really don't do much that is out of line. I don't have any kids of my own but I am very uncomfortable when they are in my house and I feel like they have taken over my whole life when they are here. They interrupt conversations between me and my husband, and pretty much every time anyone speaks, they will interrupt despite their dad telling them all the time to stop doing that. They eat up all my food (the little one eats round the clock) and they can't seem to figure out how to put trash in the trash can despite being reminded and admonished frequently, which pisses me off because I have dogs who could get sick from eating trash on the floor. I don't like having them around my dogs, who they love to play with and will not leave alone or be gentle enough with. They take over control of the TV and always say they are bored. And the oldest one creeps around at night messing around with our stuff, which really infuriates me. He eats a bunch of snacks and he messes with all the stuff we have on our shelves, like special collectibles. I have tried putting things away so they can't mess with them but our whole house has shelves of things like that all over and there is nowhere to put them away. The older one also lies all the time, usually about unimportant things like if his phone is charged or not, but he also sometimes tries to instigate problems by saying that his mom told him not to do stuff that we have told him is okay to do. He's also a know-it-all who knows a bunch of bull that he heard on TikTok that isn't even true, although he will argue you to death on it. The little one throws tantrums when she doesn't get her way, although husband gets into her for this. They just moved here recently from out of state with their mother, and I understand that they seem to be having some adjustment issues, so I am trying to be patient. But to be honest, their presence in my home annoys the everloving crap out of me. I dread every weekend all week and I can't bear to even be in the same room as them for more than 5 minutes because they annoy me so much. I really try to interact with them and ensure it but it's getting to the point where I am having trouble masking my feelings and my patience is wearing thin. I would really appreciate some suggestions on how to get used to this situation and how to deal with it without being so upset and annoyed. I had previously considered leaving my marriage because I was afraid of dealing with these kids forever but decided I loved my husband too much to follow through. We have a great relationship and really only argue about the skids. I am trying to give it my best effort but I really need some help as to how to be less annoyed and upset and angry and worried while they are here.