Hi newbie here and i needed to talk to someone about how im feeling as im kind of confused myself.
Been with other half for 7 years now and knew he had 2 kids now boy 9 and girl will be 16 in Dec. Everything was fine they live with their BM and used to come some weekends and maybe a week - week and half max. We're not that close but i do whats right by other half and kids.
Now the kids have been to stay for 3 weeks and went home for a week and now are back. Those 3 weeks felt soo long. I hated it. Theyre ok, they're not bad kids but it made me feel like this isnt for me. I am 36 and thought id want my own family with other half I still kind of do but without them. And that thought also makes me feel like a horrible person.
The relationship the dad has with daughter is difficult. He doesnt treat his son in the same way. Its like he over compensates and she says jump and he says how high and i can't stand it. She so spoilt.
We've been talking about this and he just says ive known from the start about kids and its my fault and i have always supported him if he would need to have them here. I just didnt think id feel this way though now they're here more. We get a lot less time together like literally none, he's at work or im working as were both self employed, and the kids are just constantly there.
I feel like im just expected to cope and get on with things and be ok with it all as ita been so long. And maybe i should but i feel so confused. Am i a horrible person for feeling like this. I know a part of it is my being selfish but part of me is like i cant be arsed with the kids and I want to spend time with other half. Is this normal especially after 7 years in a relationship?