Saying no is causing dramas
So my ss is autistic, he's highly functional and is very spoilt. His parents have a very bitter relationship and my partner wants his son to have a nicer time with him than he does with his mother.
He is a handful and becoming more so for me. The last two times I have seen him I have stopped him from 1 causing an accident and 2 setting off a fire alarm in a packed restaurant. Both times I have said no or stop he has burst into tears and I feel like the big bad wolf.
Each time something happened my partner says just let him do it and he'll learn.
My partner never says no to him so he just does exactly what he likes, no matter what.
I'm on the verge of staying away and leaving them to it.
is this a normal feeling? Or am I just taking the easy route?