Stepmom not invited to stepdaughter's wedding
My husband and I have been together since 2006 and his children have been apart of my life since then. they were 16, 13 & 9 when they became apart of my life. The boys were older and the daughter was this sweet little girl --like I always wanted. They are all "adults" now. I say that relunctantly because they were never allowed to grow up by their mother.
My husband and I had a rough 2018 into 2019. We separated in December, 2018 but have since reunited in March 2019.
The stepdaughter's wedding is May, 2019. I am no longer welcomed at her wedding. I originally was invited but since her father and I separated and reunited, I am not included. Her father/my husband is suppose to attend his daughter's wedding alone. On top of this, she told her father the reason being is that I treated her so badly growing up. That is NOT true. The part that doesn't make sense is that this never was said until he and I reunited.
I told my husband he needs to attend as it is his daughter's wedding. He has been treated horribly by his ex wife and accused of things that he did not do while they were married. He was always dredding this wedding as he does not like the guy his daughter is marrying. The groom is a liar and manipulative and has a sick hold over my stepdaughter. My stepdaughter has not bothered with her father, except on holidays when she feels "obligated." This has been extremely hard as we both had a wonderful relationship with her at one time.
My husband does not want to attend, and especially now that I can't be by his side as support. I don't know what to say to him. I don't want to push either way and I have told him it has to be his decision, not mine.