I'm open to ANY input/advice..
Me & my soon-to-be husband have been fighting about his kids. I have 3 kids (10,9 & that live with us year round, & his son (17) lives with us year round as well. It's his daughters (19& 16)that we're having problems with. I feel like he doesn't stand up for me to them & his x-wife. In Nov '16, it started with them calling me "princess", "what I want, is what I get". (Well, yea. I work, I pay my bills, and you get nice things.) Then, in December the 16 y.o blurred me & MY kids out of a family picture that we had done at a Christmas Party, that had ALL 6 kids & the grandchild in, & posted it on Social Media saying "I don't care who has to say what about this. She don't like me since I sent my dad some screen shots of her post (yea of stuff that was said 6years ago.. just trying to get a reaction out of me/us)." I give him credit for that, he did say something about the picture.
But the problem is that the girls feel like I'm taking him away from them, & he's putting me & my kids in front of them.
I mean it's a little hard to spend time with the girls, since they live in another state (8 hours away), they have their activities & we have work & our activities. & I know it's putting a toll on him & our relationship.
I've tried to include them in different things, picking out their dresses for the wedding, going to get our nails done, stuff that I normally do with my daughters, I included them. I feel like I can't text them, because if I do, then their bio-mom will see it & it would cause a uproar. (I learned my lesson on that). I deleted them from my social media, since they want to dig up stuff that happened WAY before me & their father met.
Another thing is, he doesn't tell me what is going on with them. For instance; the 16 y.o went to urgent care since she was sick & was throwing up. I asked him how long has she been sick for, his response "A couple days". He doesn't tell me when they're in town. He just makes it seem like 'well they're not her kids, so she doesn't need to know', & he said that he would tell me if it's a life or death situation.