New here...biomom and my H are having their first grandbaby
I'm going to try to not write a book, but there is just so much that's happened...and I have no one IRL to talk to about it.
I met my H about 11 yrs ago. He was a single dad with full custody of his two preteen boys. Bio mom ditched all three of them for another man. DH's youngest son hated me pretty much from day one. He did everything short of murder to get rid of me. We had a family counselor come in...three days a week for 2-3 hr sessions. Things were still crappy, but we made it through. DH and I have daughters together...the last baby we were really hoping for a boy, ya know? I love my girls and wouldn't trade them for anything in the world, but I really want a son. SS and his wifey are preggers now and wouldn't you guess it. Its A BOY! Boys are a rarity in this family. Oh yes...it's being thoroughly rubbed in my face that "the girl trend" has finally been broken. It makes me so angry!!! I am really struggling with the fact that Dh's first grandchild is with his ex...but having it be a boy is really rubbing salt in the wound. I've tried talking Dh about it....but he just gets upset with me saying that he doesn't want me treating (their grand baby) any differently that I would OUR grandchild...which I NEVER would. I just don't know how to process all of this. SS's wife hates me...and oh, the feelings are mutual. She's a manipulative, sneaky, backstabbing, whiny, little twit, but that's a whole different story.
Oh and of course, bio mom (who didn't want to have anything to do with the boys while they were growing up), is now coming to EVERY family function. SDIL makes a point to take lots of pictures of bio mom and MY Dh to post all over facebook. I want to run as fast and as far away from this mess as I can!!!