Giving Gifts to Adult Skids
How do you get it through the skull of a married SD27 that parents aren’t going to give her expensive gifts for her birthday?
DH and I spent $9K on her wedding last summer. For Christmas, while she and her new husband exchanged a tremendous amount of gifts on each other, in front of the rest of the family members, the couple gave DH a burned music CD (illegal) and me a Costco nutcracker. They claimed they had no money – but history with SD27 has shown that she is cheap to everyone, except herself.
Her birthday is coming up and she texted DH that she would like an ipod for her present? Really, who in the world does she think she is? I saw the text on DH’s phone and thought about deleting it before he read it– but I told him first what it said; then deleted it (I was reading his text to him as his hands were covered with goo-he had not seen SD’s text – no tricks or games of reading his cell phone secretly).
I am happy to say DH just kind of laughed it off and said ‘we don’t buy those kinds of gifts for the kids’ (have 3 adult Skids, 1 almost-adult BD). But I know DH will not come right out and tell her she is out of line. He will sugar coat the whole thing if the conversation comes up.
So while the DH is in agreement and this isn’t going to happen, I am trying to think a cleaver way to tell this SD27-nit-wit that we don’t bank roll her every whim, especially since she is married. If she wants and expensive gift have her husband buy it for her.