The Baby Showers
SD stopped speaking to me and DH (supported by her mother) during the first 2 years of our marriage. I mentioned elsewhere here that when she needed money for college a few years later, she predictably began speaking to us again. Due to her rude behavior for the next few years, I said no more. There was a devastating holiday visit that still haunts me that resulted in a family member of mine being excluded because of the skids (long story). After that, SD and I went 7 years without speaking to or seeing one another. Then comes her wedding engagement, so she "had" to make friends again (once again, predictable). The relationship thereafter was fake and distant. DH and I were treated horribly at her wedding. THEN come the pregnancies. To please her daddy, to pretend she's a good person, and to get gifts, she put me on the invite list to her baby shower. She goes off and on. ON when cash or presents are involved. Silly me.
I, foolishly, had fun shopping for her and sent her two nice gifts (why?!), as I couldn't (and wouldn't have) attend the shower. The shower was followed by loads of social media posts with many shots of ALL the gifts arranged so that each one could be seen by the viewers of the photos. WELL, guess which gifts were "missing" from the photos? (I was also MIA in all the wedding photos...lol)
Then comes Baby #2. AGAIN, I get an invite to a baby shower. I pretended I never saw it. I don't even acknowledge that she has children. I stopped signing birthday cards to the skids years ago. Stopped buying Christmas presents for them about a decade ago. I spend my money on MY family members. We have relationships with MY family members and their little ones. SS in particular seems jealous.