Rude and abnormal step son literally abnormal
Quick update on my life now, we got married last year, and all sons moved out. So far so good until I found out that my step son who is now 19 getting treatments for being bipolar. I have no issue with that, was happy that he went to seek professional help and attends therapist sessions and all is well so far. All my step sons come and visit us for dinner once a week but every time this boy comes to our house he gets bad and terribly act out of hate and jealousy literally treats me and my son like some intruders and some stranger. He makes every attempt to separate me from my husband explicitly or implicitly. He is super rude along with unstable mood. He got a car and a job so one would think wow he should move on and get a life.I feel like I have to put up with a stressful night every week when he comes to visit. The older two brothers are too busy with their girlfriends and lives except for this one. My husband has failed me and really disappointed me to appease to him. Tonight was the middle son's birthday, we all went to a restaurant celebrating the occasion and the dinner went well. As we were leaving the restaurant, his older bothers said goodbye and each drove his car except this one who stood by the door of the restaurant asking his father to ride with him so he would drive my husband alone to our house. When my husband asked what about my wife and her son?
my stepson answered his dad " Give her your keys and she can drive herself back home. It is very simple, she drives home in your car dad, and you ride with me so I can show you my new car and get to talk to you."
At first, I was taken back by the request so he wanted me at 10:00pm to drive myself back home alone to our house when he can have my husband ride with him to show my husband his new car.
I suggested if he could come with us home if he wanted to have a conversation with his father and I said that I would leave him alone with him, but he insisted on me driving myself back home with my son who is his step brother.
I lost it...literally blew up at both;my helpless man who started to stutter not knowing what to say to his son and at that selfish son of his. I responded to my step son saying " how would feel if someone asks you to dump your wife at night to get ride with your son?, you are getting way too much asking for strange things excepting your father to appease you all the time."
bear in mind, he used to see his father every Saturday and had lunches with his dad without me being with them but he refused to come to see his father for lunch citing whatever excuses he had.
I don't want to this boy to ruin my marriage and I do love my husband even though he is too weak to protect me from his sons'jealousy.
I don't feel like welcoming this boy inside our house as it feel so heavy on my heart to deal with that much hate and abnormalities in his behavior. My husband got used to appease to all his demands citing he gets anxiety and he gets depressed he may hurt himself. I am fed up with all these excuses for rudeness and mood swing issues. Fed up, and had to stand up to him tonight.
I want him out of my life completely. I know this impossible but at least not on my watch meaning if he wanted to show his father his new car, he could simply stop by his father work on Saturday and drive him to lunch this way he gets to spen time with him out my nerves and sight. But, he of course cannot do it because he only wanted that to happen tonight to see how much dad loves more than me and to separate me from my husband.
Anyway, I am praying for peace and get this boy a life happily away from us.