Legal recourse to refusing stepson moving back in?
As my stepson, now 17 is growing older and soon to attend college, my thoughts on things have changed from only thinking about the need to disengage and other such ideas.
What is on my mind now is, after he is gone, DW wants to buy a house (we have an apartment now). I would say that there is a strong possibility the SS would be allowed to move back in. There are many reasons, among them, he gets a free ride from his mother and he may have trouble making friends or holding a job due to his dysfunctional personality - however DW has always given him center stage in the home, and that includes accepting, allowing and enabling his bad behavior. So, from his point of view, why not move back home? And my wife most certainly would let him return. (Even though she says now that he cannot. This will go the way of all her resolutions regarding him and will last about as long as chore lists and rule charts, about five days.)
So, my question is, has anyone here ever entered into a home purchase and dealt with this subject? For instance is there some legal agreement I can make (and do we both have to sign it) which prohibits his moving in with us and is it enforceable?
At this point, if DW will not agree to something like this, I would never agree to buy a house together. (He could still move back into an apartment, but it is easier to walk away from an apartment than a mortgage.)
I know that any advice you give is not legal advice, and that at some point, I will need to speak to a lawyer, but I want to at least talk about the issues beforehand so I can begin to put together some ideas.