Our therapist wanted to know where he came up with his facts. H says "I just know", I guess he pulled it out of his butt like every other fact he has. There was a lot of discussion about dependency and co-dependency as well as enabling her behavior. After the session was over H says they aren't going back. Whatever . I'm keeping my sessions though, if I don't I'm afraid I may lose it. I really believe that he won't accept how wrong her behavior is until it's on one of those girl gone wild videos. Yes I'm expecting that any day now, or an unwanted pregnancy. When it happens I'm going to laugh my ass off. }:) He's not the only one in his family to think she walks on water. They all have a nice pity parade for her when she wants something. I swear it makes me sick to watch it. I brought up the fact that she lost me a great job in our session. Her excuse was she didn't want me to make more money that H. I just don't get it. I admit I was a Daddy's girl but my father taught me to be responsible and respectful of other people. If I just wanted something I had to earn the money to get it myself. That's how I raised my sons. But according to H I did a rotten job he thinks they're wusses. For example my oldest has 3 kids under the age of 3 and it doesn't bother him at all to change diapers or give them their bathes. :O How horrible!! Then there's my youngest, he took karate for years. When he was 16 he was told he would have to spar with a girl to get his next level belt. He refused. He told his instructor that he would NEVER hit a girl even if it meant he had to leave the class. The man respected his decision and sparred with him himself. If that means my sons are wusses then I thank God the are. I look forward to the day when his perfect little princess gets knocked off her pedestal. But I'm not going to clean up the mess. I'm sooo over that, he can deal with it.

He sees what he wants to see, which isn't much. I know he's an insensitive jerk and always will be. I believe it would take a miracle for him to change. Even then I have my doubts. You would think that when a man swears he loves you more than life itself that he would act like it now and then. But at least I know not all men are like that. Maybe I'm biased but I think my sons are better than most men I've known. This morning we web camed so we could talk with each other and my oldest was concerned about his family having a nice Christmas. He asked me to pick out presents for his wife and kids. I have bank accounts for both my sons, of course H thinks that's stupid. But this way I can buy gifts for my son's family and send them to them from him. Does that make any sense?? :? Anyway they could tell something was wrong but I can't tell them about it, not with them being in Iraq. They asked to speak to H privately so I let them. When I got back on with them they said that they had told him that if he made me cry he would have to answer to them when they get home. If nothing else I know my sons love me and that's everything to me.