My SD9 is this exact same way. She is always hanging all over Daddy and wanting him to give her piggy back rides and holding is hand in the grocery store. When he comes home from work and goes to change she will go to the bedroom door and knock until he comes out. She plays damsel in distress for every little thing. DH says its because they don't get any attention from their mother so when they come over they are attention-starved. I thought that was actually a pretty good theory...but it's still super annoying.

YES!!!!! correct her when she does these things before it gets out of hand. I went thru the same situation with DH ex-sd19 and mind you theres a big age difference between your FSD and this girl I had to deal with and at 19 shes very well developed and was still hanging on him like his girlfriend. She also would get in the middle of us at dinner or just watching tv she had to sit in between us and throw her legs on his lap. I regret so bad not putting her in her place sooner maybe I wouldnt hate her as much as I do now. But I would recommend that you remind her how to act like a lil lady and just a simple "FSD it doesnt look nice when youre doing those kind of things to daddy" and I would also hope your FDH is supportive of this, mine wasnt at first and allowed her to do as she pleased and you have no idea how much that has created problems between us. Even though she has not talked to my DH in over 4 months and he says he wants nothing to do with her cause of all the damamge she has done to our relationship we still argue about her.

Ya this freaks me out too. My SD is 14 now and still gets a little weird but a couple years ago..........gag!! She just had to be close to him kind of like she was competing with me; she would glare at me out of the corner of her eye - it used to freak me out. It made me distant from DH - and she LOVED that! DH caught on thank god; and stood by me. But yes, this is a gross thing girls go through with dads.

I think it's perfectly normal for little girls to do that. Dad is the first male in their lives and many will flirt and push that line a bit.
Now, it is up to the father to not engage the girl, when she pushes that line. Hugs and kisses and all are fine, but the moment dad can tell that it's getting flirtatious, he should not respond to that behavior. Unfortunately many, many dads kind of like that and don't see much harm in it. One thing is not seeing harm in it, which there doesn't have to be, because what the girl is doing is normal; another thing is to either enjoy that kind of attention or even just give her extra attention when she does it.
Maybe a way to approach it with dad is to bring up that little girls that flirt with dad and get some reward from it, often go on to flirt with other adult males, and does dad want that?

I have a 10 year old daughter and she and I are very close. She likes to snuggle, sit with me on the couch, chill in bed with me on Sunday morning, etc.
I don't think it's "weird" or "flirting" or anything. She just tends to be affectionate.

I wish my older kids were still willing to snuggle once in awhile, but that's "not cool."

I think the point here is NOT that cuddling is wrong!! You should always show your kids how to show affection!! The point I got was that it's weird when you are sitting with DH and SD gets kind of weird about it.......Mine would stand by the edge of the wall and glare at me when DH and I watched movies...... I could FEEL her starring at me...Or when DH and I would be sitting and talking SD would bounce in between and all but put her back to me and talk to DH - this is weird and NOT OK

I would tend that think that girls who are all over their fathers and other males in their family will be this way with boyfriends and no good could come of that...just saying. She is learning how to respond to men by the way she acts with her father.

I am curious about this theory...anyone who has been through this see a trend in the way their SD acts/acted with her father when she was 8-11 years old and the way she acts with a boyfriend later?

I am so glad I found this site! I have the exact same problem with my 12 year old SD. She and my DH have had a very close relationship since I met her 7 years ago, but the physical nature of the relationship has increased since she started puberty and even more so in the last few months. She holds his hand, strokes his head, and is generally within only two feet of him the entire weekend when she is with us. My 3 year old daughter is more independent than her. My husband is complaining to me about the lack of personal space she gives him, but is afraid to say anything to her about it because he doesn't want to hurt her feelings. But it really creeps me out! I have never been physically affectionate with my father or step-father. Often I feel like SD is the second wife! It is like she is flirting with her father- and he doesn't see it that way- he still sees her as a small kid. Also, she often says things that I have said 15 minutes before, but passes them off as her own comments. I really don't think she is doing this all intentionally and trying to compete or anything like that- because she is generally a really sweet kid. But I read from many of the other comments here that this doesn't necessarily stop soon! ACK! ( posted this under teenage stepchildren in a forum too!)

Jojo68 says: "She is learning how to respond to men by the way she acts with her father."

More specifically, she is learning how to act with men, by how her father responds to her. Id it did not work on dad, or other close males in their childhood, they would drop it.
The teens mentioned in this thread that act this way, have learned from dad it it works and it's ok. The fathers are at fault here, but it's easier to blame the girls. My DH never responded to any baby talk, little looks or anything else. We had two neighboring girls, sisters, that would come over and spend time with our girls. They were so used to flirting with their daddy ( actually daddy ended up in jail for 6 months for videotaping his 14 year old in the shower with a hidden cam !!!!) that they would try the same thing at our house. When Dh and his teen son were outside talking and the older one would come up and flirt with them, all it took was for DH to give her a WTF look and say:" What are you doing here ? " She never tried that again and acted normal after that. The younger one had this baby voice thing that was so annoying and after everybody at our house, in different ways, let her know that we would not talk to her when she did that, she stopped. She never did it again at our house.
So, no. Nothing wrong with girls trying this out. It is normal. What is not normal is dads that encourage it.

Unfortunately the majority of these dads are too blind to see it for themselves and need someone on the outside looking in to tell them its not ok. They continue to see them as lil girls. I have 3 bio girls 12,10 and 8 they do not act like this with their bio dad or with DH because thats what me as their mother teaches them to respect their body and not to hang on any male, in school or at home. I wonder what these bio moms think about their daughters acting like this with their dad or if bio mom is with a new man if their daughter acts like this with SD.

I am sorry but I don't think it's always DH's fault; at least not mine! DH always tells SD to stop it and never let's it get as creepy as some - SD knows it bothers me - SURPRISE - some kids do this sort of sh** just to rub people the wrong way. I was a SK for 15 years! I used to laugh at my Stepparents when they would fight. I would do something wrong - my bio's would stick up for me - then they would fight and I would no longer be in the spot light!!

personally, i dont think its normal and i would be equally annoyed with the lame baby talk and over the top effection. she's trying to get a rise out of you.

just a question since girls are like that with there dads ,are boys like that with there moms,my ss 13 has for years went into our bedroom and would go through my clothes and cologne,and now hes big enough to wear some of my stuff ,i have to lock up our room or take some of my expensive stuff with me when i leave the house its so bad ,and when were in bed sometimes he just barges right in and i have to yell at him and remind him to knock,yah but hes also made little comments to his younger brother that she loves me more than him ss 13, because he knows younger brother will tell her ,hes so manipulateing,then when i try to discipline him he threatens to run away which makes her mad at me ,,,, i would probly rather have a teenage girl than a boy,i feel like im in a constant battle for territory almost like two dogs ,but him being in our room really pisses me off!!!

I think boys being like that with their moms is much less common. Fighting for territory is a very interesting concept and very true for most of us on here

I think it becomes more of a battle when its the same sex too... for example sd/ss or sm/sd...