Unhappy, we had a fight today!
Maybe I interfered too much about Stepkids' Chritsmas presents, even my husband did not say it directly, I definitely understand what he means_____He decides what to buy for his kids with ex because he makes money!
I came to US on July 5th, 2008, gave birth to our daughter on Sep 2rd,2008. Nov 8th 2009 I got my first job in Wal-mart, Cashier for holiday hiring. Dec, 18th I was laid off because of bad economy. That's the happiest time in my life in US because I made money and I could start saving money for our daughter. I planed after Christmas, I'd save 50 dollars a week for my daughter and save the rest to pay the loan of the house, but I was told that all temperory associates have to go 2 weeks earlier this year and I was one of it. My daughter is almost 16 months, but I did not save one penny for her yet. She is growing up quick, I need to save money for her education, but unfortunately, we had no money to save for her. After child support and house loan, each week we 3 only have 120 dollar more than the 3 stepkids, but beside grocery, we have to pay electricity, water, phone, tv,internet, gas, tax, medical bills, 100 days of stepkids expenses while with us ect. I had to work hard on the burget so that our debt won't go up easily, but what do I get finally? He works and makes money, so it is "his" money and he decides how to spent? Even I am not a very generous person, I am not a mean stepmother. All I required is to buy gifts we could keep here. I agree to buy SD13 a tablet which cost 199.99, but she must bring it back when she does not need it any more. I agree to buy expensive helicopter for SS11, but not agree to buy him something(I don't know what exactly it is, boy's toy) valued 50-90 dollars which I know will never come back. I don't agree to buy Sd9 2 toys valued over 30 dollars because she will definetely bring them to her BM and they will never come back. I agree to buy SS11 and SD9 game chairs because I know those are something they could not take to their mom and we can keep. If I can, I'd rather give each of them 50 dollar cash, in that way we'd save a lot moeny. However, tonight, we fought because of my disaagreement and I finally understand that's not "our" money, but "his".
I won't say one more word about stepkids' christmas gifts, I won't suggest him how to spend money, but I will require him to pay the same amount money for our daughter each week, after her expenses, i am sure I can save her at least 30 dollars a week. Whether he is capable to pay it or not should not be my concern. My daugher is his daughter, and he should treat them the same, should not him?