Regret!! Should not have helped so much
I encouraged my partners relationship with his daughter the minute we got together!! She lived 4 hours away with her BM and I would travel to pick her up and bring her to stay as often as I could. Mainly school holidays and special occasions. Everything was going well but then her BM became distracted with boyfriends and looking after herself so much so that my SD went off the rails in early teen years. This has resulted in her and her mum moving closer to us for support. I AM MASSIVELY REGRETING SUPPORTING THIS DECISION.
I do the bulk of parenting...it's hard to disengage because I'm at home with my two young children so everyone assumes I can take her to school, collect her, feed her, keep an eye on her.
the resentment is starting to show. I enjoy parenting my two little ones. I don't want a teenager yet. She follows me round the house chatting shit that I do t care about or feel too tired to respond. But if I mention to my SO that I find it hard work he can't understand. He says she's older and should be easy. But she's just there. Around. All the time! She has a late bedtime and just lounges on the sofa. I feel harsh. But I just think it's unfair that I carry the emotional baggage while her BP just go off and do their own thing. Albeit my partner is working but his job is flexible and he chooses to be out most of the time.
mehhhhh. Thanks for letting me vent. I always feel awful when I ignore her but I just have no energy to give her...just want to look after my own kids. They are my responsibility and priority