Partner's six year old son ignores me
I have been with my partner for two and half years. He left his wife and then almost four year old son for me.
I didn't meet his son until we were five months into the relatioship. He was four by that time.
At first he was 'ok' with me but has progressively got worse. He choses when to speak to me - when he brings him to our home ( one day a week) he rarely says hello or answers any questions eg: hi $$$ are you ok? He has his father wrapped around his little finger. He acts like a baby, my partner up until recently ( until I mentioned it) cut his food up for him, put his shoes on, basically did everything for him. He won't ( can't) use a knife and fork properly, makes more mess on the table eating than a two year old, fidgets constantly and rarely sits up. He spends most of the day watching tv ( to my annoyance) in the prone position, he even eats laying down. I have asked my partner not to allow this and to sit him at the table in future as he makes an awful mess and to be honest could choke. Whenever my partner approaches me his son is there wrapping himself around his legs.
He argues with his father and refuses to go out when my partner wants to take him anywhere. It is making my weekend hell. I work with children and have good relationships with children but he just pushes all the wrong buttons for me. He whinges and whines at the slightest thing. I have spoken to my partner about his behaviour and my partner has at last started to be more assertive with him.
I don't know if the child's mother is telling him awful things or whether it's his personality.
It's getting to the stage where I am dreading my weekend as my living room is taken over with his tv ect. I have a son ( 21) who lives here and he acts the same towards him. It's like he's lacking in communication skills and manners. Rant over.....