Dinner time woes
My partner was raised in a strict home and that has spilled out onto my son especially at dinner. Son (13) is HFA and can't seem to remember all the dinner table rules that his step dad has given. No elbows, don't tap your plate, don't fidget with cutlery, keep cutlery in hands, stay seated till everyone is done etc. I don't ever get a chance to correct any behaviour as my partner is always on it. Even when the son apologizes he tells him not to and gets angry as he thinks the apology isn't genuine.
when we have guests over for dinner they always say there's such tension at the table and ask if my partner is mad.
im so sick of having dinner each night like this. Some nights I can mediate it better than others but this has just become too much. Any insight is appreciated.