My sister and I have had a rocky relationship for....well for as long as I can remember really.... But its been pretty bad for the past 5 years. She is very condescending, sarcastic, passive aggressive, selfish...you get the picture. She's the kind of person who makes herself feel good by putting you down.

We had a blow up 5 years ago where I finally stopped being a doormat for the sake of keeping the peace. We didn't speak for about 6 months. I ended up semi.g her to be in my wedding, which ended that stalemate, mostly to make my mother happy.... Our not speaking was really upsetting her. Well, she basically did what she usually does and did evrything in her power to belittle the event. Whatever, I blew it off for the sake of family harmony.

Well, since then and now we've probably have atleast 4 other "attempts" at forging a surface relationship which all end in us not speaking again .for months and.months until we are forced by some family function to be civil with each other.

Our last significant reaction was last August when I took the kids back home to visit for a week. She was her usual demeaning self, and I left that trip practically.in tears several times. Haven't spoken to her since (other than one join Skype session with my mom to tell her that we were expecting again.... She was once againn an ass.

She came to my state on Ava last month for spring break (the only 32 year old that I know that still takes spring break, but whatever). She texts me the day she arrived (didnt know she was coming til then) and asks me to bring the kids to the beach to see her. I did. We dropped our plans and drove the 45 minutes to spend the afternoon at the beach. She behaved herself pretty well, only a few comments, and a few eye rolls ect. Didn't ask anything about my pregnancy, pretty much just interacted with the kids.

So today is her birthday. I am not calling or sending anything. But should I text her happy birthday, or message her on fb, or do nothing?