New sm stressed out!!
I have been a single mom for 11 yrs of 3 teenage children,but in march my 2ss moved in with us. ss3 has blended in beautifully, but ss6 has been a struggle. They had lived out of state for for 16 months with their bm. It has been so challenging and overwhelming.SS3 hadn't even began potty training and ss6 would only eat fish sticks & junk food.They both ran wild getting into everything & destroying almost everything they got their hands on. My dh admitted their bm let them run wild & they were outta control.. that was why she sent them to him.
I never considered myself a strict parent with my bc's,but now that I am implementing the same rules & punishments I used with my bc's, my ss's make me feel like I am a tyrant.
My ss3 still isn't fully potty trained & will occasionally destroy things, but overall he is doing fantastic. There is genuine love & affection from him. Unfortunately the ss6 is stressing me out majorly. Every meal is a fight.. crying & whining & refusing to eat.The only new things he will eat are breaded meats and grilled cheese. Anytime you correct him, or tell him he cant do anything he will immediately let out a shriek & start whining or crying. He is rude & disrespectful to everyone if they aren't giving him his way.He steals things from others in the house. My dh is supportive & also implements the same rules.He is as frustrated as I am with ss6 and often apologizes for the struggles ss6 has caused. I love all 5 of our kids and want them all to feel loved & appreciated. Things aren't perfect but everyone truly gets along really well( except for ss6) Now I fear ss6 is developing an eating disorder! I am racking my brain trying to find a way to make things better. Their bm is of no help. They talk to her on skyp once every 4-6 weeks. I know they miss her & that is part of the issue. But i don't know of anyone else who has these type of problems with a sc.
HELP!! I am looking for impartial advice & input. Is this normal? Am I taking the wrong approach?