Ok so we have been in a custody battle for SD for 15 months.

We got a letter from BM when our child was a week old stating that they want full custody, using everything in the book as a reason to take her...Me being abusive(have had CPS called 2 times), school(not an unseen cercumstance) and them moving out of the county (we now live closer to her family as well as DH's). Come to find out a month later BM's dad was sent to jail for child pornography on his computer(had reason to search because of allegations from a 16 y/o student at one of the high schools) They did not tell us any of this. We found out because DH's dad worked with BM'd dad at the school district. We looked into things to make sure the story was accurate. Dh used to work at the county jail and still has a friend or two that works there. His court date and booking info was on the county jail website.

Fast forward 6 months they finally take us to mediation. They explain that they are worried about SD being left alone with me cause I have 4 other children. They think they know how I disaplain and they think they know what goes on in our home. At mediation, DH asked about what BM's dad was in jail for. They say child pornography, but we cannot hold that against him or them because "he paid his debt to society" (from bm's husband) Mediator, a woman, gets on this jerk about saying something like that and they never change, she has 2 in her family. He starts YELLING at her...did I mention this jerk does not like women with athority or women who do not do what he says when he says....saying that she does not know what has gone on and to butt out pretty much. Through this whole 2 hour process she constently has to tell him to shut up cause he is a step parent and as over steped his bounds. BM has to look at him for permission to talk about anything to anyone at anytime. I should mention that I did not go to mediation because I knew I would not be able to keep my mouth shut and I would get into some serious trouble. So I opted to stay at home with our 4 kids, and DH's buddy from work went with him. All the while this buddy is crawling out of his skin wanting to go beat the crap out of this jerk.

So fast forward another 7 months and we go to court. We had to brough money to even get our lawyer to go to court. As it came up that DH had to brough money to go to court. BM says they have the money right then and there to pay for a custody evaluation. So step one...the medation evaluation. BM and her jerk husband now are accusing DH of their finacial situation because their lawyer said that DH would have to pay for EVERYTHING..including their lawyer. They moved out of the county and are only able to use 1 vehicle because they can't afford gas for 2 now that they have to pay for the eval. and their lawyer. Which in my mind sounds right since they are the ones who started this.

Fast forward another 2 months and we finally have gotten our letter from the pyscologist with our appt on it. Now the only thing that bothers me about this whole thing is....it is birth parents only. The dr won't see the real Jerk for who he really is. We believe that BM has no way of being able to take care of herself, she has ALWAYS relied on her parents or husbands to do EVERYTHING for her.

There is so much more to this whole last 2 years that just makes this story so much better. Such as BM losing a check that I wrote for alimony and cs to us lying about BM's bow (like bow and arrow) and not giving it back to her. I have never been called a liar so much in life then I have the last 2 years because people have convinced BM that DH and I are abusive, manipulative, threatening, and so many other things...all in e mails too!!!! Way to go Jerk! You have dug yourself a whole!

Anyway, what can I expect from this thing? Don't they just come to our house and observe the whole family with SD not just DH??