MIL is interfering and overstepping a BIG line!
Anyone else have issues with their other half's parent's overstepping the mark?
My MIL is an absolute nightmare when it comes to my SS and the relationship between us and my husband's ex. She has gotten extremely chummy with DH's ex - has them over to lunch, looks after both of her kids regularly (fair enough to look after SS but his half sister? Really?). This year she even took them on a week long summer holiday - and paid for the whole thing. Her other child who is in no way related to her, goes to her regularly to be looked after and calls her the same as all her grandchildren do. In contrast to this it took us almost a whole year before she would agree to have our BD and she admitted that she hadn't wanted to and that she hadn't bonded with her. I found it quite hurtful and haven't forgiven her for the favouritism she continues to show SS.
It's to the point now that DH's ex bypasses DH completely and goes straight to his mum. She attends school functions which we never find out about until after etc. They make arrangements for MIL to have contact with SS behind DH's back and then expect us to shuffle around both of them. DH doesn't like standing up to either of them so this situation is just getting worse and worse and I'm at my wits end. He doesn't have parental responsibility because he put it off because he didn't want to rock the boat, so even though we're trying to get that sorted now BM has made a huge issue of it with MIL who has told us she thinks we should back off. Doesn't seem right to me that DH's mother thinks it's okay for us to be obliged to pay child support but have no legal right to see SS or even know where he is!
Anyone else see what's wrong with this picture or is it just me?
Maybe MIL is scared she's
Maybe MIL is scared she's going to lose contact with SK if she doesn't make an effort with BM and her other child. Your child is in the picture already and you're with her son so she doesn't have to make an effort, she can see her grandchild whenever she likes. Whereas, it's so easy for grandparents to grow apart from there grandkids when parents split up and they're living with the ex daughter / son in law. Partners kids used to be very close with his parents but after he split with BM it became harder for his parents to see them as it was finding the time during the weekend when partner had them and they wouldn't just pop round BM's to see them during the week even though they get on ok with her.
Also, you don't know whether BM's has done little guilt trips to MIL like "oh, SD can't see you today as she doesn't want to be apart from her half sister", so obviously MIL desperate to see her grandkid reluctantly agrees to take BOTH kids.
She does it quite willingly,
She does it quite willingly, she has said so herself. She said she feels like she should take on the other, unrelated child as if it were her own grandchild.
I guess my point is that she sees more of him than we do! She doesn't really want to know with our daughter and that makes me angry. She turns down most opportunities to see her in fact.
Don't get me started there.
Don't get me started there. Been trying to get him to get something legally binding in place for years and he doesn't see that me saying these things is for both his own good and his son's. Both are gutted when the BM pulls access at the drop of a hat, but apparently suggesting he get something put in place legally I am being pushy and overbearing, and it doesn't matter how I approach it. After 6 years of it I've given up, doesn't seem like it's worth the arguments it causes.
Yikes, she sounds like a
Yikes, she sounds like a tool. Fdh and I haven't had children yet however I'm afraid of this happening. fmil likes to play devils advocate with the ex also. She no longer knows what's going on now because of this. We keep everything cordial when we see her but as far as letting her in on what's going on with us, no more. Go to court and get your rights, don't tell MIL anything, if she chooses to keep contact with the psycho, don't say anything, let the fools hang out with eachother.
Tell you MIL to fuck off and
Tell you MIL to fuck off and then write her out of your life.
Follow the court order to a t. What BM does with MIL on her time will be up to them.
Oh and your DH should try to grow a ball or two.
^^^LOL!!! I love this!!!
^^^LOL!!! I love this!!!
I refuse to aknowledge my
I refuse to aknowledge my MIL. She's crazy.
She was severly abused by her husband for years (i.e. beat her and ran her over when she tried to leave him), and I guess it scarred her irreprably. I do feel sorry for her, but at the same time, she's a crazy bitch and I don't want her in my life. She's like a dog that was beaten most of it's life and now it randomly bites anyone who gets too close to it. Frankly, I'm tired of being bitten.
OMG....do we have the same
OMG....do we have the same MIL and DH???? Maybe we should make sure he's not living a double life! After over 5 years FDH is FINALLY getting a custody agreement together AND his MOTHER is INSANE! hangs out with BM! Goes behind his back! FAVORS his oldest daughter over the other one! It's DISGUSTING!!!!!!!!!!!!!