Kinda OT - Help! SD Sent me a Friend Request on Facebook!
Okay, so this isn't really "bad" per se, as a matter of fact, part of me says this is "good" in that I've obviously done a pretty of job of shielding SD stb 12 from my "Stepmonster" feelings so that she still wants to be my "Friend" on FB (or maybe she just wants access to my photos and videos and to be nosy about my life? I dunno.)
Anyway, here is the problem: It took me a long time to finally join FB because I am a very private person who doesn't like "having my business out there". However, once I realized how much I enjoyed being able to reconnect and stay in touch with friends I hadn't seen in many years in some cases, I was "hooked"! Still, I have remained very guarded about who I "Friend" on FB. I'm not one of those people who has 500+ "Friends" and my FB "Friends" List reflects this reality - I ONLY "Friend" people who are actually my friends or family or I at least know relatively well - NO "Friends of Friends" or complete strangers. It also took me even longer to accept "Friend" Requests from people at work because that is a life I really wanted to keep separate from my personal life so that I would not have to "censor" myself from potentially two-faced backstabbing co-workers so that my manager or anyone in that decision-making chain would NOT be privy to my personal thoughts (I IGNORED a "Friend" Suggestion from one of my other co-worker "Friends" to add my manager.)
Okay, with that as the background, let me say this: I am NOT SD's "Friend". SD is a CHILD in my eyes and I am not "Friends" with any children - not even my own - I am their loving BM. With that in mind, I don't want to have to censor what I say on FB for not only a child, but my H's child! Finally, SD is not even 12 yet and last I checked the minimum age for FB membership was 13. Now while that may not be a big deal for some I tend to be stickler for things like that (I'm one of those people who thinks movie ratings exists for a REASON!) This means that if it were up to me SD would not even be a FB member, let alone my "Friend"! For the record, I AM "Friends" with SS on FB, but SS is 19yo and no longer living in/visiting my home - BIG DIFFERENCE in my eyes!
So what should I do? SD is "Friends" with my H/her Dad on FB and she tells him everything, so I know she'll probably tell him she sent me a "Friend" Request on FB. I don't want to add her, but I don't want to hurt her feeling either. On top of that, my H will likely take it as just another "mean" act against his daughter if I don't add her, and since H does NOT share my conservative childrearing ideals, the reasoning I provided above will NOT matter to him, even though he KNOWS that is how I think.