Im sure im not the only one
With as many people on this site, i cant be the only one where step kids behavior and lack of discipline from their mom/dad has caused romance issues with their spouse??
I have been married for almost 3 years now and the first 2 were great with my wife. The kids behaviors and being needy all the time has really taken a toll on the romance in our marriage. I do not get along with the SS at all! Have been butting heads with him from day 1 since his mother and i got together 5 years ago. I figured he was going through a stage and would eventually grow out of it. As time went on, his mom would baby him and anytime we had any alone time, he would text her, yell from other room...etc that he needed to talk to her and she would stop and go right to him. We could be in a serious conversation, watching a movie together, trying to be intimate, whatever we were trying to enjoy together in our little free time we would have together.
For a while i just chalked it up to him adjusting to having a male in his life and the jealous deal, but now he is 18 and does the exact same thing. Last year it seemed to get more frequent and i got to the point where i just wanted to go to sleep or watch a movie in quiet. My wife has been upset and has kept bringing up its been 6 months.....8 months....over a year....since we have had any intimacy. I am just so irritated at that kid and so tired of not being able to spend quality time....not just sex...because he is always needing to talk to her and interrrupting our together time, that i have just no interest in intamacy with her anymore. After all the interruptions, texts, yelling from the other room and she jumps immediately i just gave up.
I have no interest in looking elsewhere whatsoever, i just dont have any urge to be intimate and pretty much work, spend time with my dogs and enjoy my free time in the outdoors having my quiet time.
Anyone else dealing with a similiar situation? If so any solutions that you have found to get intimacy back or do you just lack them for good?