I'm no longer the scapegoat DH has assumed that role
Better him than me. I allowed myself to be drawn into a triangle due to my lack of self worth. This was 6 years ago. Unfortunately, my bad choices caused me to assume the scapegoat "fix it" role. BM is the persecutor. I WAS the pain amplifier scapegoat and DH is the enabler. I have removed myself from their mess. BM is now persecuting DH although she hasn't quite figured that out yet. The kids can't come to our house unless I prove to her that I don't hate her by having a talk. Haha....it won't happen because I owe her nothing. She's done me a favor because I don't even look forward to the Skids visits. It's a duty. It's a sacrifice for DH. He's mad because he is now her scapegoat having to make special efforts to see his kids. Not my problem. I won't assume responsibility that is not mine. Our marriage is in real trouble so my last attempt before throwing him out on his a$$ is marriage counciling. If that doesn't open his eyes then out the door he goes. I hope he gets his mine right before his persecutor causes him to lose out on his awesome future with me. If that's what his chooses Goodbye DH... let the door hit ya where the good Lord split ya.