I'm DH's excuse to change plans
SS calls the other night and says grandkids want to see grandad for his birthday, and do we want to go over to the steak restaurant about 30 minutes away. I hear DH tell him that he will ask me what I want to do and let him know. Then he comes to me and tells me he doesn't want to go there, he wants to go to another restaurant closer. I said, "Ok, but now SS will think I shot down his request to go to the steakhouse instead of his dad. DH got annoyed with me for seeing it that way, but aren't I right? Isn't it hard enough to appear to be accomodating to your stepkids without your DH using you as an excuse?
On a lighter note, I think, while we were there our ages came up and nobody realized I was 2 years older than DH. MIL says, "Oh, that works out then because the man usually dies first!" Now, she is 87 and great to me so I took it with a laugh; she also asked her great granddaughter who just got new glasses if the kids at school called her "four eyes"