This weekend I blew up. She wasn't getting to do something she wanted to do, so she picked up her phone and called her BM telling her that her stomach hurt and we wouldn't do anything about it, right in front of us, hadn't said a word about it. I turned around and told DH that crap has to stop. If she doesn't feel well she needs to tell us, not BM. She ran in the other room and when she came back in sat in front of the door and wouldn't talk. We let her sit there for a while until DH had to go outside, he asked what was wrong and she just jumped up and wouldn't say a word and sat behind me. I turned around and told her if she was going to act like that she needed to go to her room. She said fine and got up and I told her she needed to give me her cell as the rule in our house is no cells after bedtime. At that point I was still calm but then she screamed in my face (she's almost 10) that was it. I grabbed the cell and ordered her upstairs, DH walks in in the middle of this. She ran upstairs and as I'm telling DH that I'll be damned if any of our kids are going to disrespect either of us that way, she comes back down the steps which led to a long heated speech from both of us. I think we may have gotten through to her, but I won't hold my breath.

Anyway was I in the wrong to step in? DH says no and I did the right thing. I told both of them if she ever screams at me again I will smack her in the face. I won't put up with that from my own kids or strangers and she isn't getting by with it again. I felt a bit guilty afterwards but I simply can't deal with her attitude anymore and just ignore it. She has only child syndrome, even though she isn't, and now has three step-siblings on top of her younger brother. Don't get me wrong we get along most of the time, and she seems to really like me. I'm normally the only one she will talk to when she is having a problem out of all of us, but when she gets in that mood I just can't keep my mouth shut anymore.