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Honest Poll: if you knew then would you have stuck around?

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Submitted by is it just me... on Tue, 10/07/2014 - 4:41pm

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Honest answer - if you knew when you met your SO/DH/DW what you know now - would you have stuck around?

ItHasGottenBetter's picture

Submitted by ItHasGottenBetter on Tue, 10/07/2014 - 4:45pm

Hell NO.

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Submitted by Teas83 on Tue, 10/07/2014 - 10:19pm

This^^^^^

ETA: This is actually a tough call. I hate all the baggage that my husband brought into my life in regards to BM/GBM/SD. But he also gave me my little girl. I love her more than anything and I couldn't imagine my life without her.

I was tempted to say no to this question, but I really don't know after I weighed the good with the bad.

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Submitted by Kat67 on Tue, 10/07/2014 - 5:08pm

Nope not a chance in hell. What a helluva a life lesson is right! I still have a few more to learn as I am still in it but I am working on it and hoping it will be lessons learned soon! Damn I used to be brave and outspoken LOL working on gettin' that back too ha!

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Submitted by QueenBeau on Tue, 10/07/2014 - 6:51pm

Not at all, I would hve walked away the first time DH hit on me & never fell in love.

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Submitted by kathc on Tue, 10/07/2014 - 8:48pm

Nope. No way, I have it WAY easier than most on here but I'd still have bolted if I had any idea what hell it would be.

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Submitted by Tuff Noogies on Wed, 10/08/2014 - 9:11am

ditto. u stated it better than i could have, but your words are also exactly how i feel Smile

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Submitted by SecondGeneration on Wed, 10/08/2014 - 5:41am

Yes, but then our situation is non drama so honestly cannot say I blame any of you that say no having read some of your stories!

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Submitted by lillfiredog on Wed, 10/08/2014 - 7:42am

Not a chance. The way that DH treated the SS's compared to my kids.... I should have run that first weekend of the kids visitation. I love DH, I don't love his ballless attitude with his boys and the BM.

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Wed, 10/08/2014 - 7:47am

No. Because I never would have willingly put myself and my BS into some b.s and the stress and drama, etc.

However, for the most part we have pushed through the majority of the b.s. and dont have to deal with much, so we are in a "good" place right now.

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Submitted by justanothergurlNJ on Wed, 10/08/2014 - 8:30am

ABSOFUCKINGLUTLEY NOT. NADA NEVER NOT IN THE LIFE TIME OR ANY OTHER, NOT FOR ALL THE MONEY OR FAME. NOTHING COULD EVER MAKE WANT TO DO THIS IF I KNEW IT WOULD BE THE CLUSTER FUCK IT HAS ALL TURNED INTO.

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Submitted by stepinafrica on Wed, 10/08/2014 - 8:58am

No.

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Submitted by SMLIFESUCKS on Wed, 10/08/2014 - 10:24am

NO!!! I love our daughter but NO. I'm pretty sure that's why DH didn't introduce me to his kids, ex, or family before we had been dating a year.

I think DH expected me to run for the hills. I was already in love by that point. Pfft, I should have run anyways.

I do love DH but the drama is too much for me. Of course he could say the same, my exh is a total drama queen but my kids dont do him like his do me.

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Submitted by loveandfitness on Wed, 10/08/2014 - 11:18am

Posted the exact same question a few months ago wondering if it was just me. I love DH, but quite honestly if i had known before what i know now, id have given him a while to resolve and if it didn't, i'd have left. But now being married with a son, it makes it so much harder to give that ultimatum.

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Submitted by One Step Back on Wed, 10/08/2014 - 4:19pm

No chance. I love my baby girl to bits and wouldn't be without her, but I would never have chosen this life.