Hey steps, how often do you compliment your partners on their parenting of your skids?
I sort of fell into a habit along time ago of complimenting my husband whenever he disciplined the kids effectively. Not patronizingly, but sincerely pointing out that I thought he had done a good job.
Since I have disengaged from dealing with my skids, I have taken even more time to compliment him when he handled a situation. This morning for example, he was absolutely brilliant in talking down his 15-year-old son who had screwed up on some school type issues. I just sat in the room quietly, staring at the bouquet of flowers in front of me, and enjoyed hearing him bring up all the points that I was thinking in my head but didn't voice.
So I'm curious, to those of you who do compliment your partners, do you find it makes them more effective? And those of you who don't complement your partners, why is that?