I am 24 and have been with my partner for 3 and a half years. We have been living together for 1 year and recently got engaged. My partner (who is 31) has an 11 yr old daughter who is in the first year of secondary school. We have her over every friday night and Sat day. I am in the final year of a degree and also work full-time so am having to undertake my work at weekends. A few weeks ago my partners daughter told her mum that she didnt want to come because it is boring at our house and that i dont make her feel welcome (she is very polite when we see her and showns no signs of being unahappy. She says that I always do my work and dont talk to her (which i do but she obviously doesnt undertstand how important it is for me to complete my degree as a child). My partner spoker to her about this and explained that i may seem distant at times but only because i am engrossed in my work. Since then she came round for a few weekends and everthing was fine. Last weekend she went back to her mum and said that i still dont make her feel welcome. This situation, we thought had been explianed to her and we thought she understood. Her mum has suggested coming round (who i have never met) and discussing the issues. In my mind this will make her feel 'put on the spot' and i think the mum will be doing all of the talking. I feel like this situation would be better rectified by me takng actions like spending more time with her etc rather than 'discussing' and we both certainly feel that the presence of her mum is unescary. However, my partners daughter has said that she wont talk to us without her mum there which is both hurtful and upsetting. My partner has asked me for advice and I have responded by saying his daughter is the main priority and if she wants her mum there then so be it, even if we don't agree. As it stands, they are both coming round tomorrow to 'chat'. Comments please...?!