Hi all, just a quick question.
My ex husbands mother passed away early Friday morning.
They live in another state.
Ex has moved on, lives with his fiancé and we all get along reasonably well (apart from me being pissy that he stopped paying CS LOL)
I am going to fly over there with my dd's so they can attend the funeral.
The funeral is being held an hour and a half away from where ex lives, and there will be a wake afterwards.
They (ex and fiancé) have invited me to stay the night with them and attend the funeral with them.
I am not comfortable with this. If the funeral was in the town they live (where I used to live until 18 months ago when I moved in with OH) then I would just attend the funeral, sit in the back and be unobtrusive and not go to the wake. My dd's want me to go.
I just don't think it would be appropriate.
(Oh, I have made plans to spend the night at a friends house, she has invited over a bunch of other friends so it will be lovely to catch up with all my friends - I won't be staying with the ex etc LOL)
I thanked them for inviting me but said I thought it would be best for me to stay at ***'s and not attend, but my dd10 especially really wants me to go.
I am doing the right thing aren't I?
Oh (again) MIL used to live with OH and I for the last 5 years of our marriage, she was my MIL for 10 years, and we were reasonably close. As I said, if I could just attend the funeral I would do that to pay my respects but I can't because of where it all is.