Hello, my DH has been giving me guilt trips for wanting a divorcing since I married him. I am currently in process of trying to divorce and he keeps telling me stuff like he can't let me go, he refuses to sign the papers and his life is falling apart. I separated from him already but he keeps calling crying and stuff throughout the day. It's causing my divorce to draw out and costing me tons of money I don't have. He's now stalking me and my family members I'm sitting scared he's gonna go crazy if I leave the house. I don't know what else to do I never wanted to be the mean person in court I just want to move on with what's left of my life and he's making it difficult. 

The backstory is he has a kid (5) from an ex girlfriend who i just recently saw matches the symptoms of golden uterus syndrome perfectly and is very toxic and abusive even to her kid. My DH continues to play into her toxicness and doesn't do anything about it. She treats me horrible wanting my name to stalk me telling my DH she doesn't want her kid around me cause he doesn't know me. Saying she could take him back to court for more child support since he has 2 people in his house. SS would spy on us lie saying someone hit him when they didn't, he has an attitude about everything, gets in trouble with other kids and for some reason he pooped him self 5 times the one month he actually came over. I don't know if that's normal for 5 year old but he gets it everywhere then goes and sits on the couch without cleaning anything. Not gonna lie it was very traumatizing for me to see POOP on the couch yikes.

The BM always had cps on her it seems since I've known my DH. She moved to Tennessee last year and DH kept calling periodically to keep in touch. A few weeks ago he got a call from CPS in other state saying that SS was taken into custody since BM was doing drugs, drinking in front of kids (she has 2 including one with a different guy) they said she was neglecting them, the house was filthy, etc. She's trying to get them back but apparently she has a history of this I'm recently finding out. It happened 4 times over the past 5 years. DJ is trying to get ss back and bring him with him to keep him only 4 months then send him back to BM.

That's where I decided to start the divorce I literally can't take anymore of the constant chaos. It's like a circle of chaos that won't get better and BM and DH don't seem to care to change or help the SS who is very clearly being affected (he ran away twice from school in the last year, attacks others kids bullying, left the BM house to go to supermarket across the street to buy himself a toy at 3am by himself and was brought home by police THREE times) I've told DH that is not normal to go to store by yourself in middle night at 5 and he said it's not my business that SS is strong and independent like himself (DH). He literally gets an attitude with me saying "mind your business". He just gave BM 2000 dollars to help out and get her life together even though ss is in cps custody. He still has a tattoo of her name on his chest, he always gives her money including paying some bills and car insurance. He paid for her to go see family, a plane ticket, for Thanksgiving.

At this point I don't even get annoyed or care I just want a divorce and he won't give it to me. I literally feel like a slave here. He calls me bad names just cause I don't want to be here anymore he keeps cussing at me. He pushed me 4 weeks ago cause I said I wanted a divorce telling me I'm a pos and that I'm selfish. I left after that and haven't seen him in person since. I told my attornies they said cause I didn't file it with police etc it will be hard to prove. I'm just stressed out. I feel like he's putting all his problems on me. He even said he wouldn't try to get ss unless I stayed with him. It's crazy cause he's very manipulative and is very good at coming off as a "good guy" he hid alot of his history with BM from me. He keeps downplaying everything and is hateful and crazy when I say I want to leave. I don't know what to do anymore I feel like I can't do anything my attorney says she's trying to file but I haven't heard anything. He's still calling leaving voice-mail crying telling me he can't life without me and crap.