I've been a lurker for a while, and though I should say hello and see if anyone has any advice. I have bd6, sd7 and a ss5. I have found a way that works for us of disengaging from sks and all is right with the world. This includes disengaging from the drama created by dh's ex, bm. My current troubles are related to bm and dh. They are in a legal battle regarding custody, etc. This has been going on for 6 months. I am supportive of dh but I also can't sacrifice energy to hear and deal with the ongoing legal issues and arguments. As of now nothing has been resolved and they keep bickering back and forth about who should get what time, etc.

DH is obsessed and focused on this legal battle all the time. He is consumed by her craziness. He understands that I can't be a part of it and does limit what he tells me, but it seems as though things are ramping up and he is of course looking to me, his wife for support. But I can't give it. I need to stay out of it to limit resentment and anger on my end of things. All I offer is empathy, "I'm sorry this is happpening."

I guess I'm just tired of bm being part of our world...it's his world, not mine. But as a supportive wife I want to find a way to be there for him as I know it's really difficult and scary. It sucks knowing there is this huge part of dh's life that I want no part of.

Any ideas, advice? Or should I just stay the course and have a glass of wine?