DH pays way more than CS
DH and I have been together for ten years. We decided to keep our finances separate after we bought a house together. We share all household bills and then keep our own earnings separate. I have always suspected he pays more than child support but any time I brought that topic up he denied it. My BD 23 has had a bad two years with clinical depression and her medical expenses are heavy. I was widowed when she was age four and so it's just me for her support. DH firstly has no sympathy or tolerance for what he considers laziness on her part. She was recently hospitalized as she was at risk of harming herself. DH is upset because I am spending 'our' money meaning money out of my bank account. My parents passed away and I have a small inheritance that I am waiting on to pay off the mounting medical bills and he is furious. Today I asked him again what he does with his money and he told me he spends most of it on his two kids. His ex is supposed to pay half of course. She has a good income but doesn't pay half. For anything. The way I see it is that he is supplementing her household. I have never asked him for a cent I work hard and keep my head above water financially for the most part. My parents left me the money to help my kids because they knew we had a rough time after my late husband died. Am I wrong to be resentful at DH? And to take that money for my bills?