To Custodial Step Moms
I was wondering how many custodial Step Moms there are on here? I have been with my little Skids (4 year old girl twins) for the last year. My FDH has full custody. BM wasn't around when I came into the picture until this last April. I love them like my own, I was the only mom they knew until BM showed up again. She sees them a total of 4 overnights a month and 4 half-day visits a month. A total (at most) of 8 days a month.
I read a lot on here that applies to me, but at the same time I read things that worry me. Such as Step Moms that have raised little ones from toddlers (or babies) who suddenly change to total "BM" loyalty as they grow up. Will my little sweeties change as they grow older and my position in their life change? I would be devastated to play the largest "mom" role in their life and have it turn suddenly.
I adore these children as my own and my family has fully accepted them as a real part of our family. Honestly, they spend more time with my family then DH's and BM's family is non-existent. They spend time with my mom, brothers, sister, niece and cousins (I have a BIG fam) on a weekly basis. I applaud my family for being more than thrilled to have two little wonderful girls added to the family.
Tell me this won't change. They are my angels!