Dear Valued Users,
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i just looked..
ugh, its so funny how these bm's feel that we are over stepping our boundaries, aren't the "real" mother blah blah blah
in my house, 50% of the time I AM HIS MOTHER! we are expected to care only when it is convenient to bm!
this woman complained of the sm being at all doctors visits, talking over bm. maybe if bm was not soft spoken and more actively doing the stuff sm is doing then sm would not feel the need to do this! maybe, sm does it because dh doesnt get all the info and facts, and when ss is with sm she wants to be fully knowing of all the stuff going on with ss! every time i see these posts i think, just how is it that you are not able to see how insecure you are?!
I can understand feeling hurt/sad/awkward when
a SM arrives on the scene, but I think that everyone needs to do what's in the kids' best interest and accept that BM/SM isn't going anywhere, and learn to be civil for the sake of the children.
If we go to a doctor's appointment for skids, we're going because we care about the kids and want to know how we can keep them healthy at our home. NOT because we're trying to take BM's place.
If we go to a school conference, it's because we care about the kids and want to know how we can help them do their best in school when they're with us. NOT because we're trying to take BM's place.
If we go to a function for the kids, it's because we care about those kids and want to cheer them on. NOT because we're trying to take BM's place.
If we show the kids affection, it's because we care about them. NOT because we're trying to take BM's place.
But I do have to say that I'm a soft-spoken person. So, what I do is make a list of what I need to ask or talk about. Maybe doing so would help this BM.
and besides
I don't know about other's situations but alot of the time, if I go to these functions its because BM chooses not to attend! Now what are BF and I to do in cases like that?! If she's not interested in being a "real mom" then its not my problem if people see me as more responsible than she is.
I prefer to be the "fun-cool-big sister" type of female adult whenever possible as far as the skids go but sometimes I get thrown into the "mature-grownup" role when I certainly did not ask to be there!