23 yr old parenting 15 yr old sister
excuse my grammer and spelling. i have 15yr old sister that lives in a broken home. my father is always working and hardly home and my mother is an alcoholic and is very depresed!. and my sister is getting little to no disiplin in the home. my parents have been to juvenile court many times for my sister missing too many days in school. and now they have a 15 yr old boy living in the house. who is my "sisters boyfreind" they sleep in the same bed. my parents claim they have no idea about the relationship... and when i held a family meeting at their house due too my sister already missing 10 days out of 3 months of school. the were very leaniant of the situation. my sister shows more respect for me than my parents...and ive talked to them about being the legal guardian of her and they are thing about doing it. i just want to do something befor its too late. i spoke to my sister about having her move in with me and her set back is that i do have rules in my house and that one of the rules is that she will not have "boyfreind" living there and that she will have to ern her time with BF. im willing to give up my "MAN CAVE" to turn into her room for crying out loud....
thank you very much for your
Ditto what Echo says, I think
Ditto what Echo says, I think it's amazing that you're willing to take on this responsibility!
Is the sister refusing to move in with you because of the rules?
With her missing so much school, you could always get child services involved and gain legal guardianship of her. I wish you the best!
sister doesnt want to move in
sister doesnt want to move in just because i dont agree with the boy freind living in the same house let alone sleep in the same room. thank u for the best wishes.
Your sister might need the
Your sister might need the security blanket of her boyfriend, in the absence of her dad...let's face it her mother is 'absent' too! It's a tough one. Think about the possible outcomes, not just what would be 'ideal'here. Do you want a screaming teenager in your house? Neigbors calling the cops etc. That's what you will get if you uproot her right now.
To begin with I'd suggest calling her every day to see if she has been to school. Then I'd be going over once or twice a week to see how she's doing with studies.
A lot of positive encouragement from you will maintain the respect she has for you and she will WANT to do things to earn your respect too. I am guessing that right now she feels that only you and her boyfriend really care about her future...right? I wouldn't knock the boyfriend out of the picture quite yet, wait a while, she'll come into her own if you encourage her positively and she will feel like leaving that chapter of her life behind her the more successful she becomes. I wish you both well.
thank you for the "REAL
thank you for the "REAL TALK". i agree with u. i call her every morning befor i go to work to make sure shes up, and try to call her in the PM also. i do vist often and spend a lot of time with her. she has all my encouragemet and soport. and my idea is not to rule out the BF but to limit the time they spend together and make it a reward of good behavior to see him. my only problem with their relationship is that they live together. Also i think the BF is a little of a bad influence because he doesnt attend school ither, and is doing nothing to try to better him self. ive had many talks with him also because he has no real kind of male or father figuer in his life. one big reason he doesnt attend school is because he has multipal charges against him. breaking and entering, larcany, vandalism, not going to school to name a few. he also uses the legal problems as an excuse not to go back home, because he is visited by police officers daily.