Always trust those instincts... or, the boat saga continues!
For those that knew me in 'another' life I just wanted to update on the boat purchased by DH recently. I am right now away at my son's whose daughter has a birthday tomorrow. DH and I have been chatting on the phone (more than we ever do when I'm home!) and he took a day off (something else new) to spend on the boat and take it on its first outing. First, he had to call the breakdown people because there was a fault- then he had to buy a new part before he could move it anywhere. He finally got it moving only for it to break down again and ended up having to be towed back to base!! Now, he has to wait for the repair guy to come next week...
I did not laugh, or say 'I told you so' or make any remark at all about that heap of junk which will never be the 'dream' DH always wanted. I just listened, with the odd- 'oh dear' thrown in!
Should I be smug? Should I feel bad? My son feels sorry for him- last night I was angry seeing all his money going to nothing... what he has spent on it already could have bought us a lovely holiday somewhere...just wondering if he will see sense and cut his losses... or just throw good money after bad?
Yep-he never fished in his
Yep-he never fished in his life. I'm just glad I wasn't with him the last two times he's been. There may well have been someone overboard and I don't think it would have been me!
I still hope that one day
I still hope that one day (maybe next summer) we'll go and have a perfect day, but I don't think it will have anything to do with a boat!
I don't know if you have Sea
I don't know if you have Sea Tow or something like that where you live, but suggest he look into it. Towing a boat that breaks down can run in the thousands, whereas the monthly cost of Sea Tow is reasonable.
Hopefully he gets some enjoyment from his boat and gets a new lease on life.
It has breakdown cover- and
It has breakdown cover- and boy will need it!
My DH bought an antique
My DH bought an antique mustang to rebuild. It was running so he could drive it to and from work in the process. I told him not to buy it. The sellers didn't seem to know much about it which DH thought was a good thing because he could get it for cheaper but to me that just screamed they altered it to run not fix it correctly. It took literally TWO years of countless breakdowns and tows, thousands of dollars we really didn't have for parts here and there until he finally sold it. Now he swears he will never work on another car again, he bought a 2016 last year and takes it to the dealership for upkeep. Keeping my resentment to my self was the hardest to deal with probably. I hope yours learns faster than mine and you can still salvage something for holiday.
See the above post Max-my DH
See the above post Max-my DH has never been one for fancy cars or big spending (at least since he met me!) but maybe he is also reverting to type. He does have a past history of getting into debt and spending his way to status, but I thought he was over all that. I can afford the odd holiday myself if I need to- but as someone who has struggled all my life I hate to see money wasted so I hope I won't be driven to resentment. If our relationship improves and it helps him relax and feel more easy about life then it will be worth it- come back in two years!
The best two days of a boat
The best two days of a boat owners life are the day they get their boat and the day they get rid of their boat.
A boat is a hole in the water to throw money into.
There are a ton of these nuggets of wisdom regarding boat ownership. I have had a few and though some were better than others.... these two adages definitely apply to my experience.
"The best two days of a boat
"The best two days of a boat owners life are the day they get their boat and the day they get rid of their boat." Heh heh you have heard that quote too. But I've also seen people regret when the boat was gone. Boats have always been a part of my life. My DH didn't grow up on water and doesn't even like to swim, but he kept an open mind and enjoys being on the water.
My uncle (who has had boats
My uncle (who has had boats for decades and uses them for his business) says the same thing. He says all boats are money pits. DH has been wanting a boat, which was made worse when my brother boat one (he sold it in less than a year so had very little maintenance). When DH starts talking about how much he wants to own a boat I tell him, good thing you married me! My uncle has a fleet of boats, all you have to do is ask him.
It is funny reading this post
It is funny reading this post with all the 'naughty' people now missing, and rather sad. However, I will update on the boat having been out of action for weeks.
The only time DH went out in it it had to be towed back and has not yet been repaired. I don't ask. He has bought equipment, he has paid mooring fees, insurance etc etc not to say the initial cost- that money could have gone on a nice holiday!
We were in the company of some of my family recently and they asked how the boat was going. I had to sit stoney-faced whilst he explained that he had bought it from 'jalopy corner' and admit it was a pile of p...
I think my folks are now in the picture!
This weekend we are far too busy for him to go there. In the week he works too long hours to go there (which was part of my argument against him buying it).
So, although I was open to the venture somehow bringing me and DH back together it seems it is just another thing about which I have to clamp my jaw shut.
You know? I actually think he's forgotten it exists!
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