So SO went for the face to face with SD17 yesterday. It lasted about a half hour. He asked her if she'd like to go for a drive she said no what ever needs to be said can be said in front of my grandma (BM's mom) so he said ok. He asked her if she is willing to work things out. Willing to accept me. Be respectful of me. Be understanding of how much he loves me and that he also loves her that it's two different loves and it is normal. He said this is your choice. You are making a choice to try to be in this family or alienate yourself from what we are trying to do as a family. Her response was well she yelled at me in January. And well it's like girl code. Girls just don't get along dad. When there is a man involved you just can't get along. That's how it is. That's how it will be. So he then said so you are telling me you aren't willing to work on it. That means SD17 that ALL our summer plans will not include you if you can't figure out how to deal with this issue. She said yes I know and yes it's my choice. So he asked her one more time so what you're saying to me is YOU are NOT willing to compromise with us. She said no. He said so you want me to come over here (45 miles from our house) and spend time with just us but you aren't willing to do your part on giving things a chance. She again said no. His answer was well that just doesn't work for me. Sorry you feel that way and he then walked out. She texted him something as he was leaving... but he didn't respond.
So she isn't coming into our home. Which is fine by me. I am just almost speechless at her logic. Her mother fills her full of illogical shit. And that is hard to reverse. I told SO last night well if that's how it is going to be then they all need to stop calling and badgering him regarding this little brat. She is making a choice here. She is almost 18. It's not like we are dealing with a 10 year old. This girl is almost 18 but going on about 25. Her attitude is shitty. I think SO has the right to treat her as an adult if she is going to be making adult choices. What kills me is BM is the one who gave her the option to spend the summer with her mother. And now she is calling telling SO that this is BS and SD needs to be with us. How is this working? THEY gave her a choice. I think BM just likes to call and scream. So she can tell SO what a crappy dad he is what a crappy overall person he is and how every day he makes mistakes with his kids and they will grow to hate him and he will be sorry. BLA BLA BLA...... I think she says all those things because she gets off on the thrill of trying to hurt him. After she gets off the phone she sighs relief. It's a high for her to build herself up to feel so powerful and controlling. SO told SD that he of course loves her and he hopes that she one day realizes that. That even if he were to die tomorrow he would want her to know he loves her. And he is always willing to try if she is willing. That little bitch took that and called her BM and told her SO was going to commit suicide over the two of them. OMG don't freaken flatter yourself bitches. Seriously.......... that was another call from BM. Screaming and yelling. Ugh.... I was so emotionally exhausted yesterday I could barely function.

I told SO last night that if he can't ignore his phone then he needs to ask himself some serious questions. Because I will NOT be with a man who is still mentally married to his ex wife and daughter. :O