Very rude....Completely understand, a cousin named a child last year the same name as my son who passed away. I never said anything, but it still bothers me. It is not a family name and there are plenty of other choices...I would make sure everyone knows how much it bothers you...

I can't imagine how hurtful this is for you. What if you made up another little nickname for the dog? Then you could use this new nickname while you skype with the grandkids. My children and I come up with silly nicknames for our dog all the time. It's a fun little game we play.

Who knows, maybe the grandkids will really like the nickname you choose and SD will get upset in return because the grandkids call the dog nickname now.

yeah, female dog.

Oh Enoughagain, I am sorry for the loss of your mother. If she new your mother's name and did it vengefully - that is so hard. It is hard when you love the grandchildren, but it is the SD that is disrespectful. I would like to suggest something and it is only a suggestion. Why don't you thank the SD for naming the puppy after your mother and BEAM at her how thoughtful it was for her to do that. And that it really shows she cares (even though it is a bunch of hoooey). Tell her every time you call the dog it just makes you feel so good inside (more hooey). See how fast she changes the dogs name and the excuse she comes up with for that! OR just think every time you ask HER how 'dogs name is doing' - she just has to think how her plan backfired. Then buy the grandkids a cat and give it as a present

oh sick. Get a pet lizard and name it after SD.

phew, I typed that when I was very tired and later thought it might have offended you, glad to have made you cackle instead.

I like the idea about honoring your mother and sharing a story. Get a lizard and name it after SD is way too funny love it .

I hope this is not a hurtful suggestion to you and don't read this if you can't bear to associate an animal in any way with your mother. But if the children think of you as their grandmother and you want to keep that relationship, as opposed to disengaging which is what will have to happen if you cut the dog and the SD out of your life, you CAN turn this situation somewhat to your advantage. How old are the kids? If you can bear it, how about this: you tell them how you feel but twist it round to benefit your relationship with them. "Darlings, when I heard your new pet was going to be called Anne, I was just so shocked because that's my dear mother's name who passed away before you had the chance to know her. She was the most precious person in my life and I really treasured the memory of her name as it was hers alone to me. I couldn't bear it to be just the name of an unthinking animal. But do you know, I've prayed about this and thought about this and I've realised that she would have loved to have known you too and been close to you the way I am, and so this can be her way of being connected to you in a way I would have loved. Do you know how much she loved animals herself? Well,,, blah blah, anecdote anecdote, and then just tell absolutely tons of inspirational stories about your mother and your youth. And do so every damn time the dog is ever mentioned or seen. Rush towards it lovingly crying, Now I hope you remember your name stands for honour and dignity in my eyes! (or whatever value you want them to put on your mother) If you can stand it, it could turn the situation around with the added advantage of making you even closer to them through ancestry. There's nothing little children love more from people they love than family stories.... (and imagine the effect on OSD )

Poodle and a couple of others have suggested you turn this around and use it against stepdaughter by making it a mark of respect and honour of your mother. Now, me - well I would sooner slap her out, and to be honest do not think I would have the strength to do that. However, they are absolutely right, and I hope you can find the inner strength required to do that. Everytime you talk/skype the grandkids ask about the dog by name and then tell them another story about your mum. You are absolutely not being overly sensitive about this at all, in fact, your husband, stepdaughter and every other adult who supports her in this is actually being INSENSITIVE. Your husband should be ashamed of her. In fact you should never have had to bring this up at all, HE should have told his precious daughter no way are you naming that dog after my wife's mother. Rude little cow.

Honestly I am so sorry for you, on the bright side KARMA will strike this little bitch and it won't be pretty, the universe will never allow her to get away with this one. I am more disgusted with your husband than I am her though, he is the one who promised to love and honour you, some honour this is. She is a cow and the apple did not fall far from the tree.

Im sorry for your loss,, I lost my mom about 10 years ago.. My wife of 1 year came into my life with a cat named Maggie,, that's an abbreviation of my moms name.. I dont "think" of mom when I call the cat or someone else mentions her name..

Just to throw this out there because I dont recall seeing this.. Maybe its her quirky way of memorializing her,,,,, its just a thought.. I will say that maybe its not worth disengaging over.. I would sit her down and ask what made her choose that name,, its worth a shot,, right? I have found that I am almost always wrong when it comes to assuming..