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I read an article where a couple had more embryos then what they wanted, and donated to other childless couples with a huge huge clause...

They want updates on the children, they want to be part of the child's life...

now this to me is wrong on so many levels, if you donate embryos it's a donation, you have no say what so ever after wards in what happens with it, I feel you have no claim to that child?

If you have more then 2 liable eggs what would you do with the rest? Donate for step cell research , destroy or donate to another couple with no expectations, ? Shouldn't this be like closed adoption?

I can't find the bloody article but it's been bugging me now for a day or 2

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If it's similar to an open

If it's similar to an open adoption where bios get a picture, written updates, and the child had the ability to contact in the future, then okay. However, if the bios are expecting to basically get to co-parent kids that they have zero legal or financial obligation to, then that is definitely overstepping. You don't get to shuck the responsibility while keeping all the good bits; that's how you PAS an adopted child from their REAL (i.e. adoptive) parents.

If I had leftover embryos, I would hope I would donate them, either to a couple or research. Honestly, I'm unsure I'd want to know which happened, and if I had to know that a couple got it/them, I don't want to know who they are or anything about the child, especially if I was unsuccessful at getting pregnant.

Then again, the likelihood that I would have to make that kind of decision is miniscule as I refuse to go through fertility treatments that are that invasive.

In this case, another woman

In this case, another woman has actually carried the baby etc.. so it's even less like an open adoption. I think it is would be nice if the donors would be willing to meet the children or share information with them.. but having more of an obligation/bond with the kids isn't fair to the family that wants to have a child "of their own".

I agree that this seems like overstepping.

If the prospective adoptive

If the prospective adoptive parents don’t like the terms, they’re free to continue looking for a donor. Embryo adoptions are handled through adoption agencies and different bio parents have different feelings on how much contact/information they want on their offspring.

These are called snowflake

These are called snowflake babies, my friend just had a snowflake baby, she said they were not given any of the bio parents personal info, just their genetic information...and she said they did have to pay for the embreyo and it was much less expensive than a surrogate or IVF.

who ever thought of the term

who ever thought of the term snowflake babies - obviously never dealt with skids then lol...

yeah that's what I get - it's not a donation from the original human if there's a whole lot of conditions attached to it, if you donate your snowflake then you are done with it, you are not suppose to know who got it, how it's raised nothing...

but this one woman who donated had a total different view and is crying now cause the mum is not responsive and disappeared with the baby...