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Update to the pork and SO has gone.

IslandGal's picture

Well..17th June is now past and SO has moved out. My BS18 and brother helped him pack and put his things on to the truck. His Mum came down to pack and sort out his clothes. SO had asked me if I was going to be home later so he could come and say goodbye. I wasn’t comfortable with this as I knew he’d cry and make me feel awful. We’d already said our goodbyes on Thursday anyway.

So that Sat morning, I took of and left them to it. SO has 5 plants that he has been taking good care of over the last few months. One is a curry leaf tree, which was given to us by his Mum as a cutting 4 years ago. SO spent a LOT of time and money caring for this plant. We use it a LOT as we make a lot of spicy dishes. His Mum already has 2 fully grown in her garden.

SO went to grab the plants including the curry leaf tree. His Mum got irritated and said to just leave it as they already had 2 and she knew I would make good use of it. SO got cranky and told her “DO YOU REALISE HOW MUCH TIME AND EFFORT I PUT INTO THIS EFFING PLANT!! I am TAKING IT WITH ME!”. She shook her head and just left it. Whew!! So glad I wasn’t there to hear them bickering like an old married couple. They pretty much bickered over everything all day.

It took him the whole weekend to move his things. After he’d gone, I returned home and walked around the house. It’s like a dark cloud has lifted. The relief I feel is truly incredible. I reorganised my bedroom and found myself singing. We then reorganised the lounge, vacuumed, mopped and wiped down everything. I’m doing the sage clean this up coming weekend.

SO had a chat to BS18 a few nights before he left. He told BS18 that the first thing he wanted to do was reconcile with his estranged daughter. I’m happy that he wants to reconcile with her, but am thinking that now she will punish him and make him pay for “choosing me over her”. I’m hopeful that he will continue to strengthen the bond between him and SS15. I hope that he doesn’t start to neglect SS and go back to being a Disney dad to SD.

Oh – the pork! LMAO!! He ended up taking it with him when he went to visit his sis last weekend, so at least they enjoyed it!

I will miss SS – but I am so damn happy right now, I could cry for joy.

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Monchichi's picture

I wish you happiness and peace going forward. I am so pleased it went well and you feel so calm and collected.

ChiefGrownup's picture

Island, you will never have to hear about that girl again. I am trembling with the magnificence of this vision. Ahhhhhhh!!!!

"I hope that he doesn’t start to neglect SS and go back to being a Disney dad to SD."
He will. Oh, he most certainly will. But you can't stop it. You can only look forward. If you look back, you will turn into a pillar of salt like Lot's wife.

Just sing your way into your new SD-free life! Lalalalala!!!

Acratopotes's picture

ah silence is golden golden and enjoy it Hon...

ASk MIL if you can get another cutting from the curry plant or simply go out and buy your own...

Aniki-Moderator's picture

"... found myself singing."

What a lovely feeling. Happy for you, IslandGal!!