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Submitted by Starryeyed on Fri, 02/13/2015 - 2:27pm

I'm in shock. Initially I was happy and now I'm really scared and upset. I feel like a bad person because I've really wanted it. Now I don't feel ready at all. Dh is still not speaking to me. Came home and a massive box of flowers was beside the door. Turns out it's for the next door neighbour. Dh is ignoring me in the other room. I feel very alone and scared. Never thought first time I was pregnant I'd have these feelings. I feel like an awful person who doesn't even deserve children right now.

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Submitted by QueenBeau on Fri, 02/13/2015 - 2:28pm

Congratulations!

go out & celebrate forget your jerk DH for awhile.

my DH & I were not arguing when I got my positive test, & I still felt really unprepared, young & stupid. I think it's normal to be scared & your DH not speaking to you is making it worse.

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Submitted by AllySkoo on Fri, 02/13/2015 - 2:33pm

Congratulations! Don't worry, you and DH have plenty of time to get yourselves sorted out. You'll be ready. Smile And you'll be fine.

DH is being a pissy pants at the moment, but once he's over his mantrum you can tell him and celebrate!

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Submitted by ChiefGrownup on Fri, 02/13/2015 - 2:35pm

As the ob-gyn recently told my 31 year old niece pregnant for the first time, "15 year olds do this every day -- you'll be fine." And congratulations!

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Submitted by fakemommy on Fri, 02/13/2015 - 2:39pm

Congratulations. Wait to tell him when he gets over himself. Maybe calm yourself by thinking of a fun, creative way to tell him or your best friend or your parents.

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Submitted by AllySkoo on Fri, 02/13/2015 - 2:53pm

Agreed, but ONLY if she means it! Don't offer an out just to try to get him to say he wants to stay.

For myself, and I believe for Ripley, we'd say it because it was true. If my DH didn't speak to me for a week for ANY reason, I'd tell him things had to change or I was done. But I really would be done, that would be a deal breaker for me.

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Submitted by Flying.Purple.S... on Fri, 02/13/2015 - 3:19pm

Congrats! You should not be feeling sad right now! This is wonderful news! Don't feel bad... and I don't think anyone is every ready for it!

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Submitted by misSTEP on Fri, 02/13/2015 - 3:20pm

Congratulations!!!

Just remember, whether things work out for you two or not, you have a child to be concerned with now. That child will do the best if mom is happy. So, either you two need to get it sorted or live apart. Sooner rather than later.

Also know that not all kids have to have both parents living together to have a great life. My son never knew his father at all (not that I am advocating that!) and he is a good young man now. It seems like the worst thing that happens is if the parents bad mouth each other to the child. I never said a word against my son's deadbeat state-skipping father. I just told him he'd have to ask his dad when he asked the difficult questions. His dad never made any effort to contact him until after he was 18. My son asked my input and I told him that he was an adult now and had to make that choice himself. He chose not to meet with him.

So, try to forget about your H for a while and focus on the joy of being a mother.

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Submitted by Maxwell09 on Fri, 02/13/2015 - 4:43pm

CONGRATULATIONS!!! Smile

Oh i remember when I found I was pregnant I cried and texted my best friend how I didn't think we were ready yet. I think that panic happens to everyone when they first find out. As for your DH, well if this doesn't snap him back to reality to put his big boy pants on then use that baby as a great reason to get things moving in the right direction (with or without him). Babies are a great thing and pregnancy, for me at least, has been ten times the roller coaster women talk about so you should have that talk before your emotions get even more haywire.

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Submitted by BarkAtTheMoon on Fri, 02/13/2015 - 6:30pm

Congrats on the exciting news! So sorry that DH has been an ass to you. For a week? You're a strong woman, you can do this!

~ Moon

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Submitted by luchay on Fri, 02/13/2015 - 9:04pm

Congratulations!!!

I don't know ANYONE who hasn't felt that "I'm not ready for this" moment - expecially with the first, but I have to say - even down to no. 4 - I found out and thought "oh crap! How will I cope!" But you do and its great, and YOU will be great.