I’m less reactive. And it’s working.
We were in Europe recently and did it lessen the incessant texting between DH and his telephone daughter? Any bets? Of course NOT. He has gotten to be so inconspicuous at it. You know he takes pics and then instantly sends some along to you know who. I didn't comment the whole trip. Until the very end. He obviously had FaceTimed daughter on the beach one night I was in bed early so he could"to share the sunset" with her didn't reach her and then she called HIM back at midnight! Yeah she knew damn well what time it was for us. We were both in bed by that time but instead of declining the call DH starts chit chatting in a very loud voice. We were staying in a beautiful b and b type hotel walls thin. I WANTED to scream out "WTF!!!"But I calmly told DH to keep his voice down. I had to do it several times.
Mothers Day I had contact with all my kids. NOTHING from his but no surprise there. And as usual he never wishes me Happy Mothers Day or does anything. Now Father's Day I always get him cards and a gift. Part of it was that my own father was alive but not this year. I think I will still continue because it is a tradition and he really is not a sentimental person /gift giver but he does do much for me and my kids.
Today I overheard him talking with his daughter that the other daughter is flying across country for business this week and will be at a city about 4 hrs away. He has not seen her in almost 4 yrs. Hmmm. Old me would have suggested to him that we should drive down there and see her. But the new me said nothing and clearly his daughters are not thinking of it either. Meh. Life goes on.
just my venting. I can't let these telephone strangers affect my life anymore.